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The Ideal Guy: A Blog Tag 12 July 2006

Posted by Sasha in Blogs & Blogging, Dating & Relationships, The Neo-Blogger, The Rambler.

I had to laugh when my sister tagged me to do this. I’m now forced to sit down and mull it over. Hahaha. When I started reading hers, I had this sinking feeling that I’ll see my name at the bottom of the post. Why? We’ve talked about this several times and she can only shake her head cuz I can’t seem to make up my mind on what my “Ideal Guy” is. She’s been telling me to make a list so I can focus on the important things and drop the rest. Just so you know, I did try! So, it didn’t turn out as expected, I ended up making fun of it but I’m now trying to redeem myself, right? Hehehe.

Okay. I need to highlight 8 things about a guy that I can consider my ideal. Hmmm. Fine. I’m listing them in no particular order.

I simply have to be attracted to him!

Like what my dear friend, Trini, and I were talking about a couple of days ago, it’s basically a given that you’ll get tired of the guy after you’ve been married for a bit so I wouldn’t want to end up with someone I can’t stand looking at when I wake up in the morning! Heh. Don’t ask me for details cuz that’s a whole other list! Hahaha.

He has to be passionate.

May it be about a particular cause, a dream, his work — more importantly about me and our life together. Oh, yea — he acts on it.

He has to be learned and articulate.

I love a good conversation. I love engaging in a good argument for time to time or just bouncing off theories left and right. I have a deep passion for learning. My man should be able to keep up or better yet, he is able to offer more than I am able to. This includes grammar and pronunciation. I find eloquence sexy. Hehehe.

He has to have a great sense of humour and wit.

A guy who takes himself way too seriously is boring and downright selfish. Heh. It’s admirable if I see that he can laugh about things and doesn’t break under pressure. It doesn’t hurt if he can make me laugh and entertain me with stories about what makes life beautiful.

He has to be sophisticated.

I’m heavily attracted to a guy who’s worldly, someone who’s completely aware of what’s out there. This means there’s a sense of adventure. It doesn’t really matter if he’s well-traveled or not, he only has to have that desire to see the world. There’s something about a refined guy that’s so magnetic.

He has to be sensible and affectionate.

I love hugs, cuddles and a thousand sweet kisses everyday. I want a man who’s able to offer them when able and necessary. I’m uber-sweet and I want that to be reciprocated. I’m moody and have irrational expectations on certain occasions so it is “ideal” to be with someone who can deal. Hahaha.

He has to have talent.

It can be that he plays a sport, he writes, he dances, he sings or he plays an instrument. It shows that he’s creative and won’t stand around letting life pass him by. Actually — I’d love to end up with a footballer or a rockstar but I know that’s reaching. Hahaha.

He has to be responsible.

It encompasses the following traits: committed, trustworthy and secure. He knows what his responsibilities are so I will feel secure that my life with him is set and will not be easily shaken.

Now for the fun part! The 8 people I’m tagging:

Ron – because I know underneath the player, lies not a naked woman but a guy looking for an ideal. Well, it’s just me giving you the benefit of the doubt. Heh.

Mel – even if I know you’re married, I’m curious cuz we haven’t had this conversation before.

Matt – oh, you know I’m curious about you, right?

Chris – because I want to know who the lucky girl might be, dear cuz!

Karl – I hear you’re getting married so this must be an easy one for you!

Armi – I know you’re dating Mr. Perfect, sweetie, but still! I want to know your ideal.

Jonas – because I’ve noticed how gorgeous the women in your drawings are, now I’m curious if they epitomise your ideal.

Zoe – because I know the person behind the camera has an eye for beauty, I’d like you now to focus that artistic eye on a guy and tell me what you see.


“Fatuous Fault” 5 May 2006

Posted by Sasha in Dating & Relationships, The Brooder.

What does it mean exactly? uh, well — I’d rather have you check it in the dictionary. Hehehe. Anyway, it popped into my head many nights ago. I reckon it was when I got off the bus stop and was walking back to my sister’s house. It reminded me of a guy that I once went out with a few times and — *surprise, surprise!* twas another classic case of naive thinking. Yea, stupid me. Bleh.

It makes me wonder, though. How come it does happen, these random *hopefully* situations that I find myself in, which points out a lack of clear communication that leads to confusion. It suddenly seems funny now.

There’s a possibility that this guy is reading these very words that I’ve written down and he realizes that it’s him I’m referring to. Well, that’d be cool in a way because this time, there wouldn’t be any failure in communicating on my part because I am able to write down my thoughts on the matter… granted that we all can be sure of proper comprehension on his part. 😉

Anyway, moving on.

I ask myself this question a thousand times but it seems like I’m stumped. A perennial mockery, referring to men and directing the action to my intelligence. I’ve mentioned it before but I just wanted to say it again. Ugh. What utter frustration!

It’s also funny because I just read a blog entry of my good friend, Armi, over at 360. And I’m thinking, WTF — she clearly is having the same problems with men as I am! So, it’s beginning to look like it’s us girls getting stupid-er by the minute or perhaps there are a lot of clueless girls out there, who are fast becoming easy preys. [Update: she’s really happy now. She found her needle. Hehehe.]

I know. I know. Learn from mistakes, right? It’s always easier said than done. *What a cliche!* The sad thing about all these is I worry that there’s not one decent guy out there.

Not too long ago, a guy I was seeing told me fervently that all guys are the same; that they simply want to get a girl to bed all the time or at least would go great lengths to get as far as they could, physically, I mean. It seemed that he was telling me, “Good luck in finding a needle in a haystack!” Clearly, he thinks he got his facts right. I reckon that there is a scarcity of good men. Surprisingly, I told him off, though. I wholeheartedly disagreed with what he said. I can still remember what I said that night, “I know that there is that one guy out there who would want to be with me just because he wants to be around me.” Basically saying that I’m not just some girl but the girl to him and he’d see me so he can get to know me, doing it for all the right reasons. Well, I knew then that the guy I was with wasn’t worthy of me. I will never be conquered by just some guy.

It may be arrogant of me to say. It’s only because I am proud of who I am and what I’ve done so far. I would greatly encourage all my friends to do the same. Pride of oneself is not something to be ashamed of. However, be sure not to mistake pride for conceit. I only say this because I’m speaking of what I can offer to the man I would choose to have my heart. This matter in life, I do not take lightly even if the rest of it can be mistaken that I do. This is who I am.

It’s a re-post with updates, by the way. I just wanted to share it again.

3 ways to piss off someone 26 April 2006

Posted by Sasha in Dating & Relationships, Mood Notes, The Brooder.
  1. Be brutally honest
  2. Never let up
  3. Put icing on the cake

Add a generous amount of Snarkasm to make things a lot spicier. Hehehe.

Some people can’t take the heat especially if you try to tell them how they come off to you. Hey — I know how utterly irritating I can get especially when I’m in one of my moods, but I know I’m always open for a bit of critique every now and then. It just has to come from someone whom I know I have dealings with.

The reason why I write this — I know I pissed off someone. I’m starting to feel the guilt and remorse because of that.

But then again, why should I be?

I have every right to form an opinion especially on how I get treated, right? I’ve decided that this thing has gone far enough and I refuse to move any further until this person treats me with respect. I did offer an explanation but was refused a conversation. Bloody hell. I reckon if this person wants to set things straight, the least he could’ve done was listen, right?

I’m still open for us to talk but if this person declines, him and I both can live our lives as if the other didn’t exist. I’m sure it’s not going to be a problem for either parties. Ha.

Gah. I really need a cigarette. I’m way too pissed off to concentrate. Bleh.

The Heart | Brain Argument 7 March 2006

Posted by Sasha in Dating & Relationships, The Brooder, The Rambler.
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HEART: How does it feel to be wrong?

BRAIN: Crap. I know I made a mistake.

HEART: You should be whipped for thinking the worst of him.

BRAIN: Whipped? That’s a bit harsh, isn’t it?

HEART: If he knew what went through your head at that moment, he’d be laughing at you right now.

BRAIN: Oh, shut it. It’s embarrassing enough as it is. I know it’s wrong of me to assume.

HEART: You and your assumptions. Stop jumping into conclusions.

BRAIN: In all my judgments, I rely on past experiences for reference.

HEART: You have to learn how to trust. You know, let me drive sometimes.

BRAIN: I do have a domineering personality.

HEART: So, can we call a truce?

BRAIN: Let me think about it.

HEART: Oh, you can be so heartless sometimes!

Guilt 3 March 2006

Posted by Sasha in Dating & Relationships, The Brooder.
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I feel guilty.

I found out that a guy that I’m crushing on almost split up with his girl [no, it’s not because of me, silly.] but everything worked out between them. Then a thought came to mind, “I wish they’d gone through with the break up.” Ack. I stopped whatever I was doing when I realised what just went through my head. “You’re not serious now, are you?!” I told myself. Sheesh. I’m still shaking it off.

Now, I’m filled with guilt. What a horrible thing to wish for. Argh.

“He doesn’t even like you that way.” A voice continued to mock me. Pffft. Oh, shut up.

Remembering Breakfast at Tiffany’s 1 March 2006

Posted by Sasha in Dating & Relationships, Quotes, The Brooder.

“You know what’s wrong with you, Miss Whoever-you-are? You’re chicken, you’ve got no guts. You’re afraid to stick out your chin and say, “Okay, life’s a fact, people do fall in love, people do belong to each other, because that’s the only chance anybody’s got for real happiness.” You call yourself a free spirit, a “wild thing,” and you’re terrified somebody’s gonna stick you in a cage. Well baby, you’re already in that cage. You built it yourself. And it`s not bounded in the west by Tulip, Texas, or in the east by Somali-land. It’s wherever you go. Because no matter where you run, you just end up running into yourself.” Paul, Breakfast at Tiffany’s

I haven’t forgotten what you had told me, “Never fear taking chances.” In fact, I have embraced the concept of taking every opportunity that would come my way. It has been a year since and I still think of you from time to time, more than you actually deserve but I still do it anyway.

I’m free of you and all that you stand for. I no longer run into myself but with. I will never be caged, not in the context of losing my freedom. However, what I will find is a place where my freedom is exercised in true love. Something you will never understand or have.

The Day of Hearts 14 February 2006

Posted by Sasha in Current Events, Dating & Relationships, The Brooder, The Rambler.
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Just wanted to greet everyone a happy heart’s day.

What does it really mean anyway? Romance? Love? I can only guess.

It was a big thing during my highschool years and died down when I was in Uni. Roses and hearts everywhere. It certainly gave the guys reason to pluck up the nerve and ask the girl out or… not. Some resort to keeping the “secret admirer” status, uh, forever. It’s really funny actually. Looking back it seems so childish but during that time it was so exciting. Hahaha. I say, love while you’re young. It’s a lot less complicated. =)

Where’s Cupid’s stupid arrow anyway? Missing me everytime, eh? Teehee.

Time, Lightning and a Journey 29 January 2006

Posted by Sasha in Dating & Relationships, Quotes, The Brooder.
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“You may even end up enjoying where you end up more than you’d have enjoyed where you were going — especially if you’re in the right company.”

Hmmm.. It doesn’t really matter where you are and what you’re doing, huh? All that matters is the fact that you’re with the only one you’re meant to be with. Late or otherwise, as long as he spends the rest of his life holding my hand and talking to me.

“Love is passion, obsession, someone you can’t live without. If you don’t start with that, what are you going to end up with? Fall head over heels. I say find someone you can love like crazy and who’ll love you the same way back. And how do you find him? Forget your head and listen to your heart. I’m not hearing any heart. Run the risk, if you get hurt, you’ll come back. Because, the truth is, there is no sense living your life without this. To make the journey and not fall deeply in love – well, you haven’t lived a life at all. You have to try. Because if you haven’t tried, you haven’t lived. Well, it worries me. I want you to get swept away. I want you to levitate. I want you to sing with rapture and dance like a dervish. Be deliriously happy. Or at least leave yourself open to be. Stay open. Who knows? Lightning could strike.” Bill Parish [Anthony Hopkins] Meet Joe Black

Yes, lightning can strike indeed. I’m waiting.

This certainly brightens up my day. =)

Blog Make Over 14 January 2006

Posted by Sasha in Blogs & Blogging, Dating & Relationships, The Brooder, The Neo-Blogger.
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I’m in the process of changing my blog’s look since I have a zero lovelife.


Like it really matters. Hahaha.

Seriously, though. I’ve been bugging myself to come up with a good blog layout. So, I’ve been messing around the template these past few days. Believe me, it’s frustrating the hell out of me. Like what happened earlier, I was in the middle of inputing the changes in the template and my PC chose that moment to freeze on me. I was, like, no. No. NO! I haven’t saved the changes yet! But yes, it shut down and re-started despite all my pleadings. Argh. Stupid piece of machine. Pfft. I had to do everything again. Good thing I was able to save all the stuff I’ve made in Photoshop or else I’d be pulling my hair off my scalp. Strand by strand.

If only I’m as knowledgeable in the whole dating and relationships thing as I am with using the PC then life would be so much simpler. Hehehe. On second thought, perhaps it just mirrors how I am about the love thing.

Oh, well. I can’t have everything. I mean, I truly believe in equal and fair distribution. Otherwise, I wouldn’t be blogging about all these. Teeheehee.

Original post found at Truth + Travesty, my Dating & Relationships Blog.

Celebrity Crush: Harry Kewell 24 November 2005

Posted by Sasha in Dating & Relationships, Football, The Brooder.

[Featured in the top photo: Kewell,left. Cahill, right.]